THE ROMANCE PILL

Tuesday, March 24, 2009 6:22

Posted in category Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction

I certainly did. Unlike the vacuum penis pump or the injection of the tri-mixture into the penis, the ED medications are able to tap into the emotional experience of sex. The pump is a machine. It gets the job done, but it doesn’t require that the man using it have any erotic or romantic involvement with his partner. The same is true for tri-mix. The fact that these two treatments lack an emotional connection has been a source of steady complaint from the partners of the patients who use them.

It’s a difficult situation. It’s as though the pre-erection mental stress and insecurity suffered by the man with ED transfer to his partner once he has achieved his goal. I’ve often heard it said by those partners that “Now that he can perform, I wonder whether he’s just going through the mot ions because he can have sex, or whether he really cares about me.”

With Viagra and Vasomax there is never any doubt. The fact is that without desire and erotic stimulation, the drugs won’t work; they’re not aphrodisiacs. These amazing medications restore the natural sequence of events that is unique to each couple. Without doubt, they are the closest thing I have seen to normal erectile function.

Here’s what Ron and Amy recorded in their post-sex diaries: Ron’s entry reported that “I can’t remember the last time we were out for a drive and then suddenly pulled over to a shady spot so that we could climb into the back seat. Of course, neither of us is seventeen, so maneuvering took a bit of doing. But you know what? We laughed, and that made the level of excitement reach an even higher peak. The idea that I didn’t have to worry about the possibility of failure has made every encounter that much better. It’s like we’re climbing a sexual ladder and every rung is stronger than the one. before.”

Amy’s diary said that “I’m amazed. Speechless and amazed. I haven’t seen Ron this happy and confident in a long, long time. As for me—I’m just reaping the rewards of this wonderful pill. We’re closer than ever. Thank you so much.”

Other participants wrote of similar experiences. “I’m just delighted with the results,” said Marcia, whose husband, Steve, had suffered with ED for eight of their twenty-two married years. “In the past, lots of times sex was less a pleasure and more an ordeal. We’d talk, strategize, and plan; you’d think we were storming the Normandy beaches. Now, Steve can take his time and concentrate on the romance of the moment. I’m thrilled; it’s such a turn-on.”

Steve, who at forty-nine has type I diabetes, which requires daily insulin injections, had had a terrible time dealing with his ED. “But now I view the pill as a way to express my love for my wife, who has been so incredibly supportive and loving all these years. We can have extended sex that goes on longer than it ever did—even before my illness. I can bold off and maintain or even regain an erection. The medication has returned something precious to us that I thought was lost forever.”